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30 Nov 2004

Am I beng unfair?
My husband's best friend is coming to visit(Business purposes) and is staying with us for the next 3 weeks. The problem is that my Husband is always working due to month end deadlines and will be busy for this entire 3 weeks period.

My Husband has asked me to take care of his friend ie cooking for him, Dropping him at work in the morning and picking him up in the evening, cook 4 him in the evening etc.

I ve been doing this for a week and I am exhausted. I can't even do anything for myself coz during the weekend HE is with me 100%. I sometimes get late at work due to traffic and and have to leave early at work to pick him up, go home cook, clean , wash etc.

My job is very demanding and we cant afford a maid. When I m with my husband I dont cook everyday, but since this man arrived I have to do the cooking everyday, driving him around etc.

I tried to complain to my Husband and he said I m not accomodating to his visitors(Its only for 3 weeks) , then I ll be free. I honestly feel like a slave,I m coming from work tired, and have to nurse his friend 100%.

I even tried to talk to his friend to relax and sometimes make himself breakfast, but ALL he does is SIT, and not do anything. Something that confuses me is that the Company that brought him here give him R1200 a day to spend on a HOtel , so my husband said he is helping him save money, as he will help us oneday. This man can't even contribut a cent towards PETROL or At least to buy bread. All he can do is save and expect me to nurse him

Am I being unfair or I need to be patient for the next 2 weeks. I asked my husband if his friend can go to the hotel, and he is not happy about this
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01 Jan 0001

Sounds like this was a bad idea, even if it started for good reasons. COuldn't the friend have been asked to pay for a maid to share the extra work-load ? It's totally nonsense ( and unethical and improper ) for him to fraudulently pocket the R 1200 a day from his company, while sponging off you ! How stupid is his company if they'll give him all that cash without demanding receipts from his "hotel" ?
If I were you, I'd go on strike. No paying for all the petrol --- no rides to or from work. No paying for groceries and takign you out for meals --- no groceries. Your husband is being pathetically naive if he expects this "friend" who is using you to enable him to be dishonest with his own company, to do you some amazing favour in the future. You're not being at all unfair --- your husband is.
I agree wih Kay and Liza, and ec.
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