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30 Jul 2007

Am I really this stupid???
Hi...words. Sometimes so meaningless. I need serious help. I've been in an abusive relationship- physical, mental, sexual for 5 years. The geek has now left, and believe it or not, all I want is for him to come back. "Cos I'm lonely, and depressed, and I miss him. I seem to only remember the good times, not the running away at nite, the blue eyes and the fear.

How do I cope with this feeling of loss? I must be stupid, I should party because he left. I've taken him back each time, even after he had how many affairs. How did I lose myself like this? Who am I and how do I "get back on track"? Is there a pill for stupidity???
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Its like being a drug addict --- you know the drug is damaging you, but long to have some more of the good feelings it might give you before the damage kicks in. You KNOW you are cheating yourself by remembering only the good times --- write down all the bad times, so you don't fotrget them, promise to NEVER ever take the abusive rat back again, and see a personal counsellor to help you get back on track and stay there. Like all addictions, this urge to repeat the mistakes will get fainter with time.
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