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22 Jan 2004

Anxiety/Panic attacks
My husband suffers with one of these, usually when he is driving. He refuses to seek help. He runs his own business and when he needs to see a client he has to take one of the employees with him to drive. It is affecting his business. This has been going on for 10 years now and although it is not getting worse, it has now become an issue between us. I have been with him to our GP, he gave him medication which, in my mind, does not solve anything. He relies on the medication but doesn't take it everyday. I don't deny he does have these attacks but it is now becoming a convenient excuse. What can I do?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear L,
Sometimes a genuine illness nonetheles provides us with an excuse not to do something we don't fancy doing.
While I agree with Handy Andy that anyone with an illness deserves understanding, sympathy and support, this does not apply so much to someone who refuses to get proper expert help for the condition, as then the problem becomes self-inflicted --- it becomes too like the guy who killed his parents, and then asked to be forgiven, as he was just a poor orphan boy.
Thanks to Loosing it for such a helpful response --- as you'll see, LI had exactly the same problem, and by working on it himself and taking good expert advice and appropiate medication ( I don't know whether your husband is receiving the right sort of medication, as sedatives of the Valium family would NOT be helpful, especially if taken over a long time ). And notice how LI has found ingenious and sensible ways for distracting himself from the approaching anxiety / panic symptoms and controlling the attack or avoiding it. Well done LI ! Or shoul I say "Finding IT !"
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