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04 Aug 2008

Are Porno photos ok?
last night i saw porno photos on my husband' s computer. its made me feel sick to my stomach just knowing that he has all these photos of naked women that he is obviously viewing &  enjoying it i guess. I want to ask to know if its a guy thing or not. we have been married for more that 10yrs &  i will have not known that he is into this sort of thing. i am feeling really low right now, do i confront him or just ignore this? i guess its ok to look at a couple of photos, have a laugh &  move on, but when its saved in folders under different names,its not ok.
if i tell him i know, he will be upset that i went onto his computer, if i don' t, i will drive myself crazy thinking i am not good enough for him.
is this sort of thing normal for a married man to do- he is in his mid thirties.is this a mid life crisis for him?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Check the archives of this forum, as this is a topic I hacve discussed many times before. Why confront him or ignore it ? Why not discuss this calmly with him, and try to understand his viewpoint, enabling you to calmly express yours ? Yes, you are caught in the situation of having discovered things on his computer, and presumably he was not expecting you to search through it ( why did you search through it, I wonder -- what made you suspicious ? )
But rest assured, it has NOTHING to do with your not being good enough for him --- jsut as the usually better endowed men in such pictures don't mean that he's not good enough for you ro for himself. Its common in men of all ages, and not abnormal nor sign of a crisis, midlife or otherwise.
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