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24 Nov 2004

argument with hubby
Hi Doc, help me , this is the worst day of life,

i woke up early being happy, then i went to work and things were good, then i said ag let me phone hubby and say hallo as he works somewhere far from where we stay,

i told him something about our budget this month and it was not a big issue that he can become angry with me,
he strated telling me that 'im lier, he sweared on me i never believed it, he even told me that i m having affiars where i stay of which is very wrong, he droped the phone while i was talking to him.

so i also got angry and i toldhim that he must marry someone whom he should shout not me, and that i nolonger want anything to do with him. oHHHHHH my god i feel like crying.

what's wrong with life people,today i'm happy tomorrow i'm sad oh i'm so worried i' don't know what he's thinking right now coz i phoned three times but he just can't talk to me, he leaves it to ring

tell me what to do urgenlty before i loose him i love him so much he 's my only one in my heart how do i talk with him coz i sent sms he won'tr eply/ ohhhh help before my boat sinks
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01 Jan 0001

Gosh, Thaba, what a horrible experience ! How rude he was. I wonder what else may be happening at his end, to have made him get so angry, so very easily. Like Zee, I feel that when someone suddenly accuses you of having affairs, with no reason for doing so, it often means that they are. This could be part of just extreme jealousy, but from how you describe it, it sounds as if this was an unusual and unexpected thing, rather than just his usual suspicious behavior.
As Lee says, he could also be severely under stress at work, and like a lightning conductor on a house, you collected the lightning, though you did not cause it.
You were right to be asertive and to defend yourself. Wait a little while if he's not answering the phone now ( is there someone else you know, where he is, who you could call, who could bring or call him to the phone ? ) Tell him, when you can, and it sounds as if you have already told him in an SMS< that you love him, as you have told us, and let him cool off and contact you again. this isn't likely to be the end of a relationship.
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