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26 May 2011

I am 35 now...

At around 9 or 10 years old my mothers boyfriend started touching me this led to me doing sexual favours for him in turn for stuff like shoes, cloths, money etc this went on for many years...

I have not told anyone..

Does this make me the devils child, a slut, bad and ugly? Do I deserve to be happy?
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01 Jan 0001

It makes you none of the nasty things you list. None whatsoever. It makes you an unfortnate child who was molested by a wicked older person, and whose mother was apparently negligent and careless not to notice what was happening. They were adults, with an absolute duty both to do you no harm, and to protect you from harm.
Of course you absolutely deserve to be happy. None of that was your fault. Do see a good local psychologist for an assessment and counselling, to help you get things into perspective, enhance your self-esteem, and learn to love yourself as much as you deserve to be loved.
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