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14 Jan 2004

baby out of wedlock - dad not interested
I am 12 weeks pregnant,keeping the baby & ecstatic about it.I am 25 & the dad has opted out of the situation!We had the perfect relationship & his reaction is the last thing I expected from him.His family r have tried in so many ways to force me to abort the child & want nothing to do with the child or me,which obviously has a lot to do with the direction he is taking.I love this man & would give anything to beable to give our child & our relationship a fair chance.I have made it clear to his family & him that I do not expect marriage or anything else from them/him & will have the baby regardless.I know he is very angry with me (denial?my refusing to abort?) & confused right now & pray every day that he will come around.WILL HE though, is the question? And what should/can I do to know whether I must give up hope & move on (which is my absolute last resort-I want to be with him) or just keep on praying and wait? Any advice?
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01 Jan 0001

Dear Phranx,
he has absolutely no right to be angry with you for refusing to abort, which was your decision to make ( he had a choice to avoid getting you pregnant, which he seems not to have taken ). It's none of his family's business, and it rather shabby of him to pay so much attention to their opinions, while not attending to his responsibilities to you and the baby. Does this really show him to be the sort of man you want to have in your life ? You can judge a man far more accurately by the way he behaves in such a crisis than in how cuddly and adorable he manages to be dring the good and untroubled times. You may want to remind him that he DOES have a duty to you and the pregnancy, and to talk to you about this. But if he isn't man enough to face his responsibilities, and to care for you at this specific time, maybe he isn't man enough for you ?
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