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02 Jul 2010

BEATEN BUT DOESNT CRY......
Yesterday my 5 and a half year old son was naughty and I was angry and I hit him hard with a belt but he didnt cry, or cried a little bit , this made me so angry i repeatedly hit him. Is it normal for that age not to cry when hit or was i overboard or does he need help? I felt bad afterwards....
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Not crying is one way some kids respond - its a dangerous way when the person beating them insists on them crying, and thus huts them more. Seriously, it may be that you are more in need of help than he is, as it is not healthy to so want to hit a child, and want to make them cry. Its also a useless way to make them behave well.
Anon is misreading the bible, too - this isn'y an effective or legal or justifiable way to buig any boom. Where does the bible say children should be beaten ?
Chame quotes the effective ways to achieve far better results. There are various reasons why a child may no cry, such as self-pride, and a desire not to show you that you have hurt or scared them. Respect that. Maybe, as said, if the child does not expect comforting or for the beating to stop when they cry, they may not see a point in crying.
As you were beaten as a child, maybe you learend that this was how a good parents was Supposed to behave. Misleading, but perhaps convincing at that age.
There's a significant difference between a mild smack and repeatedly hiting a child with an object like a belt, till they weep.





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