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20 Apr 2006

Becoming Clued-Up.
I am sick of these battered girls writing "what should I do?" And then tell this horid, gutwrenching tale of deceit and abuse. Then want to know what should they do. Girls, you don't need an answer on what, but on how. You know you should leave or as CS says get counseling as a couple. Ask then how! The way you girls portray yourselfes makes all women look stupid and weak. Since there are so many of you. Start by what's really inside, and ask how must I go about leaving him, or get him straight, or anternatively just say that you just need someone else to be aware of what you're going through, and give support. Stop disgracing us.
That said, I'm finally truly quitting pot. My husband got too concerned and asked some interesting retorical questions. I promised him I would, and I never turn aroud once I said promise. So, this is it. I'm leaving a LIFE behind. The only one I know now. And I know it won't help to be scared, cause it is going to happen regardless, I rather focus on coping skills. As I go. I'm currently on my last 'trip?'. In this state I'm horrified.
Another thing, my doc will increase my meds depending on the outcome of the blood tests. O, and I trust him now. Something he said. That sort of busts my theory on the psycho. You will never know how relieved that makes me. I could never start afresh with any other psychologist.
Basically I'm saying that some rather hectic things is gonna happen during the following weeks / months??, and (since, during the past couple hours, I've seen how bad things had become, and can point out the lies I accepted as truth) I would prefer to detach myself from you too, since you are such a big part of my life, as it is now.
I must change. Now. I will again make contact when I am stabilised and hopefully happy.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Hi CLueless,
As you notice, in abuse situations or in most others, there can be a world of diference betwen knowing what you ought to do, and actually doing it.
And you seem, I hope, to be taking one of those steps of doing what you know you need and ought to do, in giving up the pot. Sounds like you're taking a number of positive decisions and steps, which is excellent. It'll be hard work, but worthwhile. GOod luck with making the changes --- we look forward to hearing from you as and when things have settled down. Dittohead seems confused on one very important point --- in anyone with psych problems, especally some of those you have had, pot is very clearly a continuing risk factor and does increase the chronicity and seriousness of the problems. Some people do seem to be able to handle it, in moderation, without problems ( except that it's dirtier and has more of the same health problems as smoking cigarettes ) ; but once we have discovered that we are among the vulnerable folks who experience problems with it, we are much better off without it. Just as small amounts of alcohol can improve our health, but once we are alcoholic and/or have active liver disease, it has no health advantages and many health hazards.

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