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22 Jan 2008

i found some "loving" messages on my partner's mobile from another woman. meanwhlie during the past 6 months he has been rude, verbally abusive and distant. i have made some enquiries and during these 6months there was already some flirting with this woman. when i confronted him, his answer" just having some fun". i cannot forget the contents of those messages, i am hurt, sad and feel worthless. i know deep down what i want/feel like doing, but am i over reacting? he is still distant, does not talk much, almost as if i "spoilt" everything. Please help!!
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01 Jan 0001

If he is within a married or otherwise stable relationship with you, he has no business "just having fun " with anoyone else. WHy not see a marriage / relationship counsellor together ? If not, and if he insists on childishly sulking at having been caught out, seriouslty examine the option of leaving him, and moving on, towards someone who will treat you with the respect you deserve
And remember, you have worth, and it has nothing to do with anything he does or does not do --- its yours by right, not a gift from him
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