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13 Nov 2006

Boyfriend became violent
Hi,

My boyfriend of 6 years and I had a fall out over the weekend. For the 1st time in 6 years he became violent towards me. He grabbed me on my neck, tore my pant, threw me on the ground etc.
I questioned him about it the next day, and he says he had to because I physically attacked him first. Which I didn't....

He is 1.88 and weighs over 100kg...I am 1.71 and weigh 60kg......I don't gym, so I can assure you I am not very strong and not tall enough to attack him....

I just feel that what he did is totally unacceptable but am willing to forgive as this is the first time he has done this.

Any advice? Do I accept this behaviour? Do I forgive?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

yes, such violence is totally unacceptable. Did you povoke him very severely before this act of violence ? be very cautious about just assuming that nothing like this can happen again. If nothing remotely like this has happened in the preceding 6 years of your relationship, one really wonders what provoked this incident. Maybe, if you really want to continue, see a relationship counsellor together ?
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