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05 Apr 2006

Boyfriend slept with ex-wife
Dear Doc,

My boyfriend and i have been in a very fun loving relationship ever since the day we met. There was really nothing to complain about and we were both very happy. On Monday his ex-wife came back from overseas and he did not tell me about this. After various unanswered phone calls I drove to his house only to find him with her. After a brief discussion about it all he decided to go away for a few days to "clear his head". Basically to make a decision between me and her. Do you think i'm wasting my time waiting on his return, or should I give him the benefit of the doubt and wait for him. If we do get back together, will I be able to trust him not to sleep with her again??? Pls give me some advise.
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01 Jan 0001

You may be wasting your time with him, but as he has been so secretive about even whether there was a problem here at all, who can guess ? Maybe after the time you have invested in this relationship, you should give him some time to think about this, but be demanding on his return. If he decides he wants to return to her, tell him he has treated you disgracefully, and dump him comprehensively, If he wants to return to you, insist that there must be no further contact with his ex, and that he needs to convince you that this will be true
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