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19 Apr 2006

Boyfriend's Ex - just gave birth
How does a person handle this. My B/F's ex just gave birth to a son.When i met him, they just broke up,well she couldn't handle it,few months later she was pregnant. Anyway according to B/F, the were intimate last in June,that means baby was due End Feb,Mid March,but baby only arrived 13April. He hasn't been to see baby, coz he has doubts if baby is his or not. I don't think i can handle this,it's far too much for me.It's eating me alive. To make matter 100000 times worse, i am also pregnant now and the most unpleasant woman ever. I try to stay calm for the baby's sake, but i can't. I cry ever second night, i am easily happy twice a week. This is so unfair towards my unborn baby, what type of a child will i bribg into this world??? Coz i am more unhappy than happy. My B/F tries everything to make me happy, he said it's me that he wants and all those things, but i just cannot be happy. Am i making myself unhappy.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Think this through. Either this is NOT his child, in which case it shouldn't affect either of you ; or it IS his child, the result of an unwise liaison with her, and he will remain responsible for caring for and maintaining the child, but need continue no particular relationship with his Ex herself. Proper tests can clarify whether or not it is his child. Maybe you are becoming extra emotional because of the hormonal and other changes of your own pregnancy. It does sound as if this silly young man needs to learn the simple facts of contraception and responsibility. Check out the availability of counselling through a nearby clinic, to help you cope better with your pregnancy
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