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10 Nov 2006

Boyfriends Behaviour
My bf and I met about 2 years ago, when we met I was 20kg overweight he pursued me but i wasnt interested. I concentrated on losing weight and lost the 20kg in 6 weeks. We started seeing each other in the gym and not long after we met I fell pregnant. He was never a person that shows affection in public and wouldnt even kiss me hello, the only thing that he might do for a short time was hold my hand and then he would leave it. If we walked in a mall together you would think that we are friends instead of a relationship. But when we are alone is was always affectionate. During my pregnancy I didnt gain a lot of weight and still continued training and he was still the same person. Our daughter is now 5 months old and I can safely say that I have lost all the weight and some more. I'm not self-centered but I know that I look good because I worked hard to get here, although I wouldnt say it to anyone. For the last month or so my bf has become very strange, whenever we are in company he would grab me and just suddenly kiss me, and he would make sure that the people know that I'm his gf. We have a rule in the gym and its that we can go there together and leave together but we are there for a reason and we dont really talk during the time that we training. Yesterday he arrived at the gym 5 minutes before me, we saw each other said hello and went about our training. About 3 times during that time he kept coming to talk to me, and he would do things like play with my hair, or have his hand on my lower back, or even hold my hand while talking. This is very strange. He is a playful person and normally does things when we are alone, but now he is doing it in public. I dont have a problem with it, but can it be that he is threatened by other people.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Have you two actually been having a "relationship" at an emotional, rather than a physical, level ? It sounds very superficial, and concerned more with appearances and sex than with emotions. And as for his gym behaviour, it sounds as though he is more concerned with how things appear to others, with you as a sort of fashion accessory, than with actually relating to you
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