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23 Jul 2010

Broken promises
My boyfriend promised to marry me next year in february. I began telling everyone and he had already told his family and our friends. Now out of nowhere he is not saying what are his reasons behind but he has began dropping hints that february is not possible.

He had also changed from a person who used to use a lot of " we"  into " I" . Should I sit him down and ask what''s going on? Yesterday I did not say much to him except that he lacks intergrity. I am now embarassed because my friends are asking me about the preparations towards the wedding and now it looks like its something that won''t be happening anytime soon.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Sounds like he really needs to explain himself - he may have innocent and reasonable grounds for wanting to change the date, for instance, but shouldn't leave it to you to guess ; and if there's nothing wrong with his reasons ( and maybe even more so if there is ) he ought to tell you, and discuss it.
If your friends ask, refer them to him, saying he sems to fel there's a need for a delay, but that he hasn't explained it to you.
It does sound as though he's getting cold feet, but as the engagement involves both of you, he owes you a calm and reasonable discussion.
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