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15 Jul 2005

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I just want to find out if it's normal for after going out with someone for more than 4 years and being engaged for 7 months to have suddenly developed a commitment problem. You see what happened is that my Fiancè just decided Tuesday morning that he is not ready to get married and he can't tell me why. He moved out and moved back to his parents to go and think about stuff. Is this normal or should I be concerned? I mean, we did not have any problems so there is no indication that we will not make it. I did not ask him to marry me? I never even said anything about I want to get married but I always knew that if he asks, I will marry him and now 7 months down the line, now suddenly he doesn't want to get married. He will go and see someone on Tuesday, should I just be patient and wait for what the shrink says to him? Should I just give him his space?IS THIS NORMAL? Because my heart is broken into pieces and my parents wants to kill him.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Its unfair of him not to explain, unless he doesn't have an explanation he can verbalize as yet. It's hardly normal in the sense of usual. Some guys panic at the thought of making a long-term committment. If he's going to see a shrink, wait and let them discuss it, as after that he may have something clearer to discuss with you. It isn't unusual for a guy ( or a gal to need some space and time to rethink their own problems and their relationships, and it usually pays to allow them that chance.
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