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27 Jul 2005

Can an abusive person be healed???
Dear CS and everyone.

Is it possible for an abusive person to be healed. I am being emotionaly abused and I really dont think my bf is fully aware is what he is doing to me. Can councelling help him, and change is behaviour. The problem is I cant even get him to see that he has a problem.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

It is impossible for an abuser to be healed if they are not aware of, indeed convinced of, the fact that they are aabusive, regret it, and genuinely want to change. Until then, counselling wouldn't be able to help, just as a surgeon can't operate until someone is prepared to lie down on the table. See a counsellor to help YOU, and call POWA for further advice and support.
As Peta's example shows, it IS possible for an abuser to chenge, but only after he has truly decided he needs to change.
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