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28 Jul 2006

Can u love 2 Men
My husband and I have been married now for 21y. When his nephew (sisters son) was 17 and I was 23 we started chatting and we started to enjoy each others company and the one thing led to the other and we started an intimate relationship, for a couple of months we phoned each other send letters etc. We fell in love. He finished school and went to University and met a other girl, they fell in love he got married and has 2 little girls with her. We never stopped talking to each other and we always told each other how different it could of been (But I am married to his uncle). We spoke to each other every 3 months etc. At family functions there was always a sexual tension, craving, name it whatever you want to between us, giving each other the eye and wanting to be with each other. We recently had contact again and we have been sending each other serious sms'es and phoning each other and telling each other that we love one another. We had sex about 3 weeks ago, we fell into each others arms and it was wonderfull to be held by him and to see each other and there was no family etc just the two of us. We still doing the flirt thing and we care, he finds it difficult to say to me that he loves me because he says it wrong and he must try and live with the feelings he has in his heart for me and has done so for a very long time and will continue to do so he can not brake up his family, he can not leave his little girls now, his father left the house when he was about 14yr and want to be a good father to his kids. I have two kids 21 and 15 and feel the same and my husband will kill us both if he finds out. But how can 2 people love each other so passionately and not be with each other we've had this feeling now for years and not going away we try and stop and not to keep contact but if we see each other at a family do, there is no stopping us, This sounds like a Jerry Springer show, but he loves me and I love him, but our families is the ones that will get hurt. Thank goodness he lives in Polokwane far away and I live in Gauteng because it would of been a serious problem if we lived close to each other. He is now 30 and I am 37! So for the past 15 years we have been playing with our emotions!

What do we do?
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01 Jan 0001

You know that this is a really bad idea, whatever romantic ideas it may stir in you. So why continue the flirting when the only likely result is to have everyone hurt ?
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