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13 Jul 2005

Can't let go
Hi Guys and Gals,

I still can't let go. I dated a guy for about a year and we were really close. (His mother always told me that I was too good for him and that i deserved better.) (I still call his family for Xmas and Birthdays as we were all close) Then October 4 years ago he decided he wanted to move to Holland, He asked me to go with him. I said that I couldn't as I had my daughter to think about. He said that I should bring her with. I still replied no as I would have no job no place to live etc...... and he was going to find a part time job. A month later he left the country. It has been over 4 and a half years and I still can't let go. I miss him terribly. He tried to make me hate him before he left, thinking that it would be easier but he stopped and told me he couldn't becaused he loved me too much to hurt me. He left the country because his Ex-Wife wouldn't stop harassing him.

I know most of you will wonder why I can't let go as I make him out to be a jerk. He was never a jerk to me he was actually wonderfull. If he came back today and asked me to date him, I wouldn't even hesitate to say yes. I would marry him tomorrow if he wanted me to. How do i get over these feelings?

I need to move on. If we had broken up before he left I wouldn't feel like this. Now I can't even talk to him to get some closure.
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01 Jan 0001

Sorry, but this sounds more like an obsession than a love. An it may have prevented you from loving anyone else, and potentially forming even more appy relationships. See a counsellor.
However, if you're determined to find him and at least consider resuming the relationship ( assuming he's not already maried ) let's hope that works out for you
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