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09 Feb 2004

cannot trust again
Hi

My biggest problem is TRUST. Last year I was going through a bitter process of divorce and I was also pregnant. The divorce came up after a lot of hurting whereby my husband had a lot or relationship and there was no respect for me as a wife. and he showed an attitute that he does not care. Any way a week before the final date of divorce he came across to apologise, stating that he is realising what he is going to loose, should we go our separate ways.

I did not want to hear anything because he hurt me far many time. As he was apologising for the first time I saw him cry and he even involved a couple to show the seriousness of his apology. I said I would consider giving our marriage a second change only he met a few of the conditions I laid, he did and up unitl now he still meeting them.

The proble is I cannot bring myself to trusting him at all no matter how hard he tries to make things perfect between us, and mistrust is really making us to fight over petty things, and I can see the marriage wont survive because of the way I am carrying on.

How do I learn to trust again.

PLEASE HELP
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear anna,
There are no specific lessons to teach this skilll, especially in circumstances like these, when you have to balance a preparedness to be reasonably trusting, with a wariness not wanting to be hurt again. Why don't the two of you work on the twin tasks of You becoming appropriatwely trusting but not gullible, and him becoming more trustworthy, within marriage counselling ?
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