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12 Nov 2004

cant anymore
please help,i am married 5years,we have a 2 year old .
he works ,i am job searching .we are really struggling financially,i feel like im useless,i havent been able to find a job in 1.5 years(im not qualified for any thing)i feel so guilty for even wanting my hair cut,we cant even afford groceries anymore,we have arrears accounts they all want to hand us over for legal action.i cry when nobody is home -one minute im fine -the next im so sad i cant bear it!!ita tearing me up ! i feel like i have no independants,i want to be able to feel like a lady-with confidence,but i tell myself dont even bother trying,im not and cant be like my other friends
we argue over the stupidist things lately--mostly because im snappy or i say he has an attitude,i love my family ,i dont want to feel like this anymore,please help me to stop crying myself to sleep,i just cant anymore!!
is this normal to feel so overwhelmed bye life?i cant even imagine that one day things will be better---i cant afford to see some-one ,what can i do????
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

nikita, don't be so hard on yourself --- you're far from the only good person who's been trying for years to find a job, without success so far. We don't measure the quality of a person by success, but by their bravery and persistence. HS makes some useful suggestions. Do you have family who could help and support ? And ANY job, to start with, will help financially and boost your confidence and competence.
Val, what helpful suggestions could you make here ?
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