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18 Jul 2008

Cant be in The same room
Hi CS

I cant be in the same room as my Ex with out been very verbally abusive and going into a cold sweat. I can talk to him over a phone or skype and dont have a problem. The problem is we have to have a meeting with the lawyers together next week and I cant see my self staying calm. Been in Therapy since the break up 4 years ago
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Good grief, if your reaction to him is still so extreme, what on earth has your therapist been doing for 4 years ? 4 years is an extremely long time to remain in therapy is an effective technique is being used, and one would not expect an issue lie this to remain so potent that you really feel unable to control, yourself even through a relatively short meeting with the ex and lawyers. Maybe you need a second opinion from a fresh therapist ?
As Sr suggests, by allowing yourself to remain so sensitive to him, you give power to him to upset you.
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