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27 Jul 2005

Cant take it anymore
Please help me!!!!

I've been with my partner for 8years and I had his baby about 15 months ago. Anyway for the last 8 year we had our ups and down, but not like this. Ever since het met up with these friends our relationship has gone from bearable to totally unbearable. His one friend girlfriend told me the one night she want her relationship to be just like ours and I told her don't look at other people's relationships rather work on your own. And she didn't like my response to her, ever since that day she's been trying to break us up. Feeding him things when his drunk. Telling him I want to tell him when to drink and what to do. Any way it lead to him physical abusing me. And she mailed me and told me that I deserve it. I think he open his eyes and he realized that she's the main reason why he hit me. His not friends with them anymore but he'll still great them. He told me that he'll never do it again but can I believe him. Do I deserve it? Can I forgive him? Should I leave him? What must I do.? Please help me..... My story is so uncompleted coz so much happened that I need help on.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Physial abuse is simply unacceptable, and being drunk is no excuse for it, nor is listening to the spite of some other woman. But from what you say it was a single incident which he has since shown he regrets.
I hope you showed him a copy of her vicious mail to you ? To greet the others is just polite, but if he has changed, and stopped seeing them, there might be some hope, especially if he would agree to see a shrink and work towards becoming a guy who genuinely will not do such a thing again.
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