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02 Mar 2004

case of the ex
when i was 18&in matric i had a steady boyfriend we dated for almost 2 years until i found out he was cheating on me with his best friends sister.i dumped his ass like a hot potato&still he bothered me.a month later after the break up i found out that i was 1 month pregnant AND the bitch he cheated me with was 2 months pregnant how i dont know.i changed my cellphone number& house number but he still did everything to see me.his baby was a stillborn&i`m glad about that it`s almost 2 years since i lost his child&still the mother -|- er bothers me.i hate him for what he put me thru&i`ll NEVER forgive him not now not ever.he doesn`t want to leave me alone,i mean he has his other baby&woman.he tells my friends he`ll never stop loving me&that he doesn`t love the other woman&he`ll do absolutely anything to get me back but it`s pointless coz i despise him.yes i chose to go thru the pregnancy alone coz he is skum&his girlfriend.i went for HIV tests i couldnt believe he`d do such a thing but what happened,happened when he chose to pull down his pants he lost me forever but how do i deal with this pig? coz it still hurts,losing my baby,cheating on me...
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear a with e,
it's far too late now for him to do "anything" to get you back --- he should have done "everything" right a long time ago. Of course you're still hurt --- he was and is a bum, and not worthy of you. So there's no question of your wanting him back, surely. If he is harassing you, tell him, in a leter ( keep a copy ) to stop and never to contact you again. If he continues to harass you, see a lawyer or the police, and get a restraining order to force him to not contact you at all.
There's no need to forgive him for his sake --- leave him to stew in the juices he created and make his own gravy.
But it's worthwhile for you to see a counsellor and "forgive" in the sense of letting go of all that bitterness and anger so as to set yourself free for a happy future without him, and without letting those bonds of bitterness tie you to him.
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