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10 Dec 2004

Chat: Suicide
Hi, probably going to get shot down in flames for the following comments. But, I’ve been reading a few postings on this site over the weeks and this ‘suicide’ issue has got to me. I’m sorry but I don’t believe that life could get that bad and depressing that someone would want to end their life. I’ve been there, I know what it’s like to be depressed and not wanting to go on anymore but you do, you pick yourself up and carry on, that’s life and we learn to deal with it.

It boils my blood when people actually say “I can’t take it anymore, I want to die etc” I think of all the close people that I have loved and lost due to various illnesses and drunken drivers and it pisses me off that these people had to die when there are other people out there that are perfectly healthy and want to die. I think that anyone wanting to commit suicide is a coward and has no respect for life and if they have no respect for life then they have no respect for themselves and anyone else and probably don’t deserve to live anyway. Well, have had my vent..
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

I understand your views, G. In my professional experience, I have worked with so many people whose actual situation in life, from disease, the cruelty of others, whatever, have been horrifyingly awful, and generally, they handled it with dignity and courage and without wanting to give up ; and I have also seen so many suicides and suicide-attempts, from people whose actual situation was enormously better than tha of the first group. The difference is worth exploring,
There's a lack of faith, in themselves or in anyone or anything else --- a profound tendency to give up really easily, to feel that life has to be wall-to-wall pleasant or I'll refuse to accpt it. A lack of problem-solving skills, or the real interest in persisting in finding solutions. A sense of being entitled to what one wants, and quickly ; or that somehow harming oneself is also intended to punish other people or the world in general, for not producing on demand. Do some people get taught, somehow, that life is supposed to be better than it realistically can be ?
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