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05 Aug 2008

cheated on....
My boyfriend of 7 months cheated on me and i forgave him and later changed my mind. resoan being that i dont know how i would ever trust hime again if he is not with me, i dont like his friends who i believe are a bad influence on him, but he loves them and i am not okay with that.

He is in to alcohol not a full blown alcoholic but i believe he cant stpo on his own and he had agree to go to AA, to prove to me that he wants to chance, but i am affriad if i go back to him now i will not be trully happy...i love him very much and i can say he is my first love, but i dont want a life sentence.

i just need advise on how to deal with this, what can go wrong if i go back to him, or have i made the right decision...
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

YOu made a sensible, jusifiable and mature decision, and probably need to move on with your life. Don't accept his promises as though they represented achievements. Anyone can make promises. You don't need a cheating drunk in your life ;and accepting him back unchanged will encourage him to continue these ultimately self-destructive behaviours
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