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30 Jul 2010

Child Clingy after break up
Hi
My fiancee (now ex) &  I broke up just over a month ago &  i moved out of the house. We have a 23 month old child together whom has been staying with us since birth. Before the break-up he was happy to sleep on his own but now only sleeps in my bed &  is always holding on to me (even in deep sleep) &  would during the night call mama &  only a response (reassurance that i am there) he keeps quiet &  goes back to sleep. Some nights he would even call daddy while sleeping. I know he misses his dad. He''s only seen him twice for brief periods since the separation. He was very close &  used to to his dad being around so i know it might be affecting somehow. Is there anything i can do to help him? He''s very playful &  all but just that when i leave for work &  when we go to sleep we seem to have problems.
Please help!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Its not only very understandable why the boy is behaving like this, it'd probably be more worrying if he as NOT responding like this - he has just lost someone he loved, and doesn't understand why this is - and fears that you, the other loving person in his life, might go, too.
Make arrangements for him to see his dad more often. Maria's comments are excellent and I fully endorse them
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