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08 Mar 2004

How does one know when to let go of the love that you feel for someone, there are times when all we want to do is be alone together and times when we cannot stand being around each other, I know we truly love each other but we both have so much emotional baggage inside so many issues of our own that we need to address, How do you say good bye when you know inside that it's impossible because in moments of silence you think of that person and long to just hold them and say "i care".
If you truly love each other but just cannot seem to get it right when do you really say enough and walk away?
It is very scary knowing that I somehow feel incomplete, just not completely whole. My world has not come to an end it is just different. How do you get closure? There is so much that is unresolved. It is almost as though we are afrad to talk about what's going on. How do i walk away from the love inside without destroying the friendship we've developed?
It's hard but any advice would do.
Thank you
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01 Jan 0001

Dear Still raw,
You can continue to care about each other, even when no longer in a formal relatonship. and maybe you both need to consider entering counselling, to deal with all that emotional baggage you've both been carrying, and free yourselves from that. Once you are both freed from that burden, you may either feel content to form new and sustaining relationships, or to resume this one. But the freedom is what you need.
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