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06 Jan 2005

confused about relationship
Hi all,

I wondered if any body out there could offer some advice. I am currently dating a girl with 2 kids (still young), they are from different fathers - and am taking some strain - cause the Ex will always be there (and i have never dated with kids)... She is really great - i guess what i always wanted, but the only problem is her attention and her kids - i dont want to make things difficult for her... I am very understanding - have good morals - christian etc etc - so if there are obstacles nothing can is impossible ... We have our times alone together - but need some advice about the future - will there always be that threat (Ex) ? or is that my mind playing games ? - i know that men when involved with kids - always feel a certain rejection... Please can anybody offer any advice, i like her a real lot... just need to accept a few things to make it easy...

Thanks for reading....

Me.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

When someone has kids, in a way you want the Ex in the picture, and can hardly avoid it, as the kids need access to their dad / mom, and he/she needs to help to support them. It doesn[t need to be the basis for jealousy.
As lady nina wisely says, you need to talk this through between you, and consider working for a time with a professional counsellor, too
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