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05 Jan 2005

Confused boyfriend - Any advise is appreciated..
My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for 4 months now. Last night he told me that he is concerned that I am getting to emotionally involved with him and he does not feel the same way about me.

Now he wants time to think and make a decision. We have been through this before and the conclusion both of us came too was that our relationship is doing alot of good for both of us. And neither of us really want to end it.

Now he feels scared of the strength of my feelings for him. He says he is worried that he is going to hurt me. He also wants to talk to me about this in more detail but only on Thursday night. I am feeling so miserable. I can't think about anything else.

I don't know what to do or what to tell him that will make things better?? Please advise..
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01 Jan 0001

As BT says, let him have space and time. Such situations can be complex, and can be about his personal concerns with intimacy and committment, not actually about you as such. Relationship counselling might help.
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