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25 Jul 2005

control
Please advise. I have this problem and I dont know how to control it. When I get angry or frustrated, I blurt out whatever is on my mind. When I am saying it, I am saying to myself, I should not be saying this! I have got to the stage where I can distract myself from my thoughts for a while, but a bit later it all comes out and much worse. How can I control this. It feels like a force that takes over, and I have no control. Please help as it is ruining my relationships. Thanks.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Surprised nobody else has responded to you yet. I hesitate to conme out with my frequent ( because it is so frequently adviseable ) advice, that counselling can help. When you get angry or frustrated, don't say anything except to excuse yourself, and walk away. Find a quiet place to sit down and cool off. And don't allow yourself to just save up all the anger only to blurt it out later, but think through whether ANY response from you is needed, and if so, what would be the most useful and reasonable response, rather than the most immediately emotionally satisfying.
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