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08 Dec 2004

CONTROL FREAK FOR A HUSBAND
Please help, this is driving me insane. I never have any money, if I want something I have to ask like a child, and then still have to explain what I need it for. Even if it's only R 5.00. I use to be so independant before our marriage, but slowly but surely he has taken control of everything. I have spoken to him about this on numerous occasions, but he insists that he handles the budget and that I am spendthrift. He gets very annoyed when I even raise the subject. I earn a good salary that I work very hard for, but I don't see it at all. He doesn't show his feelings very often (not affectionate) but will show it in other ways. Sometimes he will surprise me with small gifts, but I can't buy myself something (not even a magazine) then I get the look. Everything is on his terms only. On the other hand he is a good father, provider, lover and husband. Sorry, if I don't make any sense, there is so much to ask and so little time.

Any suggestions ?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Open your own bank account, and have your earnings deposited directly into it. Jemma's suggestion is highly practical and realistic. And yes, push for some marriage counselling, to explore why he is so demeaning towards you, and so mistrustful.
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