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22 Nov 2004

Cyber, Paul + Q : Now I'm confused
I was not blaming or pointing fingers.
Strange how you all read into my comment that I was blaming Cyber and not the fact that I was angry because he told me I was impatient when I was needing the advice / help. How could I expect Cyber or you guys to realize the urgency. Perhaps I’m not the best in communicating . Who knows. Now Cyber has given all the advice and steps to take so when I say too late…..maybe for me but not for someone else. Why is everyone jumping on me?

Thank you all for your understanding of what it feels like to feel helpless and yourself reach out desperately to find out how to be more compassionate and supportive.(Sic)
You all proved my point thank you. If there is a dramatic heading – you get more people answering and a quicker response.

Anyone heard of paradigm shift ??

As this is a forum am I not allowed to voice myself as well ? I note one minute I was told what a wonderful friend I was to be concerned etc etc and the next well………….. Nobody likes anyone to criticized and we all react differently !!!!

Here are Cyber’s latest comments …….talk about blaming !
Vee, your spitefulness and failure to take absolutely obvious steps might possibly have contributed to this tragic outcome, but absolutely nothing I did or did not do, and nothing whatsoever to do with this forum, had anything to do with it.
Is it spiteful to ask for advice on how to help a friend in need, you say that my failure the take absolute and obvious steps (well that is what I was asking)……..


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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Vee, you are persisting in deliberately misunderstanding, and wallowing in self-pity, trying to blame anyone except yourself though from what one can see here, you are not at all to blame either). Adults MUST take full responsibility for their own actions and decisions, none of us can take such responsbilities for them. There is nothing spiteful at all in "asking for advice on how to help a friend in need", but you asked that and was answered, and did not take the advice given, apparently. Your message, to which you received those replies, WAS spiteful and unpleasant, as well as unfair. 'm proud of the measured, thoughtful, and sensible replies you received from other readers, too.
You agitated because you didn't get an immediate response, whereas you got a more rapid response that you'd be likely to get, at high cost, by trying to make an appointment with any shrink or doctor in the country.
But you did NOT need any expert advice to recognize that any friend who was threatening or otherwise at high risk of sucide HAD to be taken to see a real, live, face-to-face doctor ! The lady who packs your bags at the supermarket could have told you that,
How often do I have to say this --- if your house is on fire, do NOT send me a postcard announcing the fact, and then complain that my return postcard took a while to reach you. CALL THE FIRE BRIGADE !
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