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16 Nov 2004

Dating a great guy
Good day CS & all my friends here !

Fanx 1st of all for always being so patient & helpful. So here goes from now on under only 1 nic (as CS moaned at me…..hee hee)

For the last 6 weeks I’ve been dating 2 guys (for which I’ll get flack, here). I met R first & after dating for a while he needed space – which I gave him & in this week met G which I like a lot. A decent, wonderful Portuguese guy. I’ve been VERY cool with R coz he needed “space” but also coz of having met G. So yes I’m keeping R “on hold” …… (yes I do know this is not right and don’t do to others etc.)

I spent last weekend with G his kids being with the x and mine with my mom (and no thing happened that was naughty). I feel a lot for G & he’s told me he loves me which upset me coz u just don’t say that THAT easily! Myself have not said that in 3 years. He has 3 kids ( 9, 6 & 3) of which he has custody. This does not worry me at all as you know I LOVE KIDS and come from a big family myself. And Nè’s so lonely being an only child she loves other kids. G’s never dated in the 2 years that he’s been divorced and having a bottle store works from 9-8 Monday-Saterday he does not have time for much besides work and kids. He’s very genuine (spelling) & I do feel safe & great when with him. He phones me every single nite from 10 to 11.30 this is when we “kuier” as with the 3 kids he cannot come over. We live 60km apart. We discuss a lot its as if he is trying to sort out any possible problem that could ever arise: cheating, bringing up the kids, smacking vs the “reward system”, portuguese religion, portuguese woman, etc. he did not want the kids to meet until we were certain. But now this weekend Nè and I will be going with him and his 3 kids to Sun City…..

My question is yesterday we somehow got to seeing each other exclusively and he said MAYBE. I said what does that mean he said he thinks that things are going to fast. We sms like 50 times a day telephone each other 5 times a day and then the usual nightly call and then this Sun City ???? I’m getting mixed signals……

I’m never again waiting for a man in my life so when R asked me to go to the movies tonight I said yes…… G has made it clear that he’s not sure bout exclusive… so I’m not wrong am I ? What do I do ? Just play it cool with both ? See how things go ? G told me today that another girl asked him to go for coffee and I said and ? he said he doesn’t know. He then asked me if I’m going to date anyone else, I said well I guess so I’ll be accepting an offer to go to the movies tonight. He then sent me an sms saying he might not go on the coffee date : “better the devil you know, that the one you don’t”. Why date R if I like G - coz I hate being alone - I cannot NOT have someone in my life - I'm not happy if i dont have a man in my life....

Jip at my age I should know all the games there are etc. but I’m confused. R will always just be my “back-up” plan (as bad as that sounds) but I want to “play” it right with G.

WHAT DO YOU SUGGEST ?


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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

What stamina ! Is dating 2 guys at once some sort of substitute for going to the gym ?
Otherwise, it all sounds too complicated for me !
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