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23 Nov 2005

Dear CS, Regulars & Anyone with some advise
I have been an avid reader on this forum for about 6 weeks, thus the nickname (although the true meaning of the word does not apply). I chose not to post anything in the hopes that I would get answers from reading everyone elses postings and the advise given. Some postings make what I feel seem trivial to what others are going through. There are so many of you that share so much and show so much compassion for's quite touching to know there are complete strangers always willing to advise and share experiences.
I am 31, female, married with finally to wonderful children. I was the type of person who didn't let much get me down until recent and have no idea why. 5 months ago, when I finally realised I had a problem..getting depressed for no apparent reason I opted to go for natural therapy, trying to avoid having to take medication. It has helped certain aspects of my life, helping me come to terms with things but 4 weeks ago I hit a low that I couldn't get out of. This lead to me going to my GP for meds -Cipralex 10mg it has made me alot calmer but seem to have hit a serious low again. Over the last five years I have gone through alot: I have had 2 miscarriages (both exactly a year apart), failed fertility treatment, failed "artificial" incemination, the loss of my 3 day old niece, the sudden loss of my best friends mother, the near loss of my premature nephew, the news that my brother & his young son were HIV positive, only to find out a month later the labs made a mistake, the loss of my dearly loved dog, watched my father pass away, watching a good friend having to deal with the loss of her son and ex husband, the loss of my best friends dad too and finally a relative trying to take her life twice in a short space of time.
I thought that I had dealt with everything but I am now wondering if I haven't actually..or maybe it's because I haven't had a full nihts sleep in 2 and a half years (since conceiving my dauhter) or is it PND?
I just want to know how to snap out of the lows that I get into and cannot seem to come to terms with how I am feeling. I have always had control over my emotions but now THIS seems to be out of my control. It is not who I am, it is not what I am about but yet I feel as though it's trying to take over and I am getting tired of it. I just want to know how to snap out of it?

If you have taken the time to read this posting...I thank you and would greatly appreciate any form of response

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01 Jan 0001

Hello Voyeur,
Nice to hear from you directly at last ! Gosh, but you have had far more than any fair share of stresses and losses on your plate recently, so it's hardly surprising that you are Depressed. A psychiatrist would be better able to help you than a GP, especially if he/she can add CBT style counseling to whatever antidepressant you take. The combination is more powerful, and CBT paticularly would help you to understand better how you are dealing with all these cvhallenges, and help you to find a diferent way of seeing and deciding about them, which would not lead into necessary depressions. It DOES help one to gain a useful degree of control over one's emotions
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