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05 Feb 2004

Dearest Soul
Judging from all the replies you have previously posted on this site, I have come to the conclusion that you are a very wise and sensitive person. You make sense and give great advice - keep up the good work. As far as Skeezix's posting is concerned, this person has managed to do exactly what they aimed at right from the sart. He/she has attracted a lot of attention and caused fighting and bickering because of a statement he/she has placed on this forum.

At no stage did I encourge this person to commit suicide - read my posting carefully - all I am saying is that Skeezix is reaching out for help, however he/she is reaching out in the wrong place. Tell me - what can you humanly possibly do to help that person ? The only thing you can do is to say "please contact the right people i.e shrink, lifeline, whoever..." Not you, me or cybershrink will be able to resolve this issue on this forum. Postings such as that one has popped up many a time and as I said before, I previously became involved in a similar situation. I was so involved I was almost hysterical at work because I could not reach that person. Cybershrink then taught me a very valuable lesson.

He pointed out that altough we all want to help (because there is a little super human being tucked away in each one of us who wants to save the world) on a forum such as this, you can only give your advise then stand back and wait and see whether that person actually takes your advise. Skeezix I am sure will do the wise thing and contact the right people, people who can physically get in touch with him/her. You and I cannot do that. You are just going to upset yourself further by trying to become too involved. It is the same rule that applies to an accident scene. If you are first on the scene - apply basic first aid then hand over to the proper medical personnel who has the knowledge to save a persons life.

It is very sad that people end up feeling like Skeezix, but in the end only he/she can really help themselves once they reach out to the right people. This person knows that not one of us can reach him/her so why did he/she place the posting in the first place ? Think for a moment.

Hope you feel better and please do not upset yourself any further.

Keep well
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