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21 Jan 2008

Depressed and always stuck in the middle
I am at a stage in my life when any form of confrontation or uncomforatble situation, however big or small seems unapproachable or an impossible hurdle. In a nutshell my coping mechanisms are shot. And yet the guilt of not coping with these seemingly ordinary things cause such great guilt and feelings of failure that I am constantly battling with myself to do better and stop feeling this way. I am currently taking Cilift to overcome some of my issues, but feel it is pointless unless some of the physical aspects of my life are rearranged. I am a working mother of 2 adorable cherubs, aged 2 and 4. If that isn't enough to cope with, recently my divorced mom had to move in with us due to financial difficulties which in some respects is a help, and in others a nightmare. My eldest loves her dearly and constantly i feel as tho i am playing tug-of-war for her affections. I am also often in the middle of awkward situations when there is a clash of interests between my mom and husband. Going against any one of these very important people in my life means i have to take sides, a position i struggle with with a diminished perspective. Please help me, i am goinf crazy! Want to run away!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Surely you ought to be seeign a good, poisitive and practical counsellor like one using CBT ( COgnitive-Behaviour Therapy ) to revise your habits of negative thinking and to learn better habits and interpersonal skills ? And let go of that tug-of-war --- this is a game all of you can win --- the child is fully capable of loving both of you --- YOU love both children, don't you ? And your love for the one in no way diminished your love for the other ?
And, as usual, John's comments are wise and thoughtul. And helpful !
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