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26 Jul 2005

Depression or just looking for attention
Our mom is driving us mad (she is turning 60 on Friday 29th) - she keeps wanting to leave home, threatens to divorce our dad, has temper tantrums, keeps saying we're lucky she is still around (meaning alive), doesn't care about what happens to anyone, she's 85% of the time is a filthy mood, talks to my dad like he is trash, we can't tell her anything then she screams "this is my life I can do what I like". We are worried that she may suffer from depression because she basically left her job when she really didn't have to and started to work with my sister on her instant lawn farm - she (& my dad) have since got their own farm and doing well - she had been irrational since her job was going through a outsourcing phase. I think she didn't want to "retire" and feel we don't really need her anymore. Oh she keep thowing in our faces that there is a man that would like to marry her (he does exists- an old working colleague). She also says that marriage is rubbish and look where it got her. If she could do it again, she wouldn't marry him (our dad). There is nothing wrong with him - its her. We think she could crack any moment.

How do we approach her to go see someone without her going "ape sh$$t" and telling us well I may as well die and you will all be better off.

HELP us to get our mother back!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Well, maybe it's depression, maybe not, but if this is a change in how your mom behaves, rather than typical of how she has been for many years, it sounds like a significant problem of one sort or another. Maybe it's early Alzheimers ; maybe a personality disorder. Only a shrink might be able to tell if he had an opportunity to conduct a proper assessment --- and from the sound of it, she wouldn't tolerate this. All you can do is to look for opportunities to encourage her to take such an opportunity.
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