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20 Jul 2006

Desperate

I dont know whether its me or him, but we will be 1 year now in love but I just dont understand what sort of a person I am going with, you know:

1. He tells everything about me to his sisters
2. I work with him
3. He wont even buy me lunch when he does he will
ask for lunch on the 30th or so, and ask me what sort of a
lady am I
4. He says he is serious about me
5. He has a daughter that he lives with 10 year old and I dont
understand a 10 year old girl to sleep with her dady is this
normal whenever I go for a visit he ask her to sleep down and she becomes very angry (at first I thought its because they stay
in a small room, lodgers but now I dont understand why)
6. He says he would like to pay lobola at the end of this year

I know I want to get married and be settled you know I am 34 years old and I dont have a baby of my own but would like to
get married first, be settled, and have a family of my own but I dont
want someone who will be controlled by his family because I am
a very independent woman.

What do I do, I have set up a meeting with him for this coming weekend and would like to see him because I just dont understand what type i've got, sometimes I think he is there just for me to assist him and I want someone whom I can work hand in hand with.

Please assist!!! You know I now understand that you can be rich, own 123 have your own things but if you dont have someone you belong you are nothing, so please assist me, before I can go mad.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Excellent responses from Mando and Gudu
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