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19 Apr 2006

Devastating easter Secret
Hi everyone...

My b.f and i been together for almost a year, well he left his ex coz she was using him financially, cheated on him and blamed him for everything that went wrong in her life but when we got together his ex told him she was 3 months pregnant bt my b.f kept it a secret.

His ex said she wanted an abortion and she needed R1000 for it and my b.f gave it to her but after the money she decided to keep the baby, she's been calling his parents and telling them that she doesn't need my b.f in the child's life and telling them she wish they could die and calling my b.f and telling him that his parents are threatening her child.

She never let my b.f see her while she was pregnant or the child and my b.f parents ask her to bring the child or give them proof that she has a child but she just hang up the fone, she's been telling different stories to them but whenever they want her to bring proof so that they could help her she fails

I'm so devastated and i don't know how my b.f can be so stupid to believe her when she said she can't have kids, this has been affecting him he even failed his last year at varsity and couldn't tell me instead he made up a story about his friend who's in love but find out his ex was pregnant.

I'm so upset and hurt, he said he told me coz he wants a future with me and didn't want to lose me, his parents believe that she is lying to get money from them coz she is on drugs and doen't have a stable job. how can i handle this? part of me wants to leave him but i love him and our relationship is drifting apart. Am i overeacting to be this angry with him especially coz he's been telling me how important it is to be open with each other and now this....

I feel like i don't even know him, he is an amazing person and his past mistakes were his to make but if there is a child i don't know what i would do.

Your advice will be highly appreciated.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Hello Honey,
She sounds a highly disturbed and unreliable person. he should insist on receiving his thousand rands back unless she can provide absolute proof that she was pregnant, that it was his child, and that she spent the money on the abortion as she claimed. That should be easy for her. He shouldn't give her another cent. If she had an abortion, or if she lied about that and didn't have a child at all, then for what reason does she clai he should sponsor her drug habit ? If she continues to harass him and his parents, maybe they should consult a lawyer or the courts and consider getting a Court order forbidding her from continuting to harass them.
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