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05 Mar 2004

Disillusioned
Me and my ex-girl were together for 3 years. She came from a broken home and this affected our relationship heavily. She always seemed to doubt herself and had issues with self confidence. Anyway, alot of outside factors lead to the end of our relationship a few months ago. She met someone else and has known this other guy for 5 months. They are now together for 2 months and she decided to move in with him, because she could not live in her parents house anymore. Her mom is a alcoholic and is very abusive. I love this girl with all my heart and i want her back. I told her this and she said i am confusing her. I dont know if she loves this new guy and all i want is to have her back. I know she lovd me very much. I just want to know if i should give up and face the truth? Today she phoned me and told me she was pregnant with his child. That completely destroyed me. She told me she made a big mistake and now she would rather stay with him for the child's sake. I am completely destroyed because i love her very much. I would even take her back with his child. Am I too hurt to see the truth?

I am a broken man, and i have thought about suicide.....
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Disllusioned,
Well, suicide is about the worst idea, isn't it ? Certain to ruin your life and damage hers. You can understand why she could find it confusing that, having broken up with her, you now say you want her back, now that she has begun to make a new life with someone else. if you really do love her, you need to be thinking more about what's best for her, rather than concentrating on the fact that you want her back. Meet with her if you can, and talk with her about the situation, and about how she feels.
Explore how best you can be helpful to her. And read Cathy's excellent advise carefully and thoughtfully.
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