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07 Mar 2004

distressed
Dear Shrink,

I am so confused. I have a boyfriend, who i've been going out with for a year.As i get to know him, i discovered that he's highly insecure, and very possessvie. Nevertheless, i grew to love him very much...my love blinded his instabilities, but i soon realised that i cant put up with it anymore.

i've broken up with him now, but he doesnt want to accept it...he says he loves me too uch to let me go. he says he'l never let me go, and threatens all sorts of things, including suicide.
iworry about him, cos i still have feelings for him, but i know better than to land myself with some who is going to control my life.
ITs seems like he'll do anything to NOT lose me.

Please help...what do i do?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Encourage him to seek proper professional help. Explain that though love initially blinded you to the pain his insecuities and possessiveness was causing, you really can't live with it. Encourage him to et counselling to sort out these issues, as if he can achieve real progress in that regard, he will then be able to form more whoesome and happy relationships, and will be able to form a lasting relationship --- with someone else.
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