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06 Apr 2006

DNA Test : Child
How do you do a DNA test to make sure if she is my child when the mother hate me so much.

I had a baby girl who is 11 years old now. I feel I don't acting like a father to her though I do provide support but still I am not going all out for her. And it is hurting me a lot. I have big though that she is not my child and my relatives friend and family also say she is nothing like me. Anyway I chose not to listen to them too much but this thing is bothering me big big time. We dated with her for about close to a year I went to CPT for my studies, so it was then a distance relationship. I came to visit her and we made love in September and i think that might be the time that she conceived. I went back to CPT and when I saw her in about three months she told me she was pragnent. I was shocked cause I wasn't expecting fot it but then I had to accept,, so I started looking for some partime jobs selling to support her and the unborn child. I worked so hard, my studies and working at the same time. It was really difficult.

What turned me off was that she gave birth a month and the half ealier. She was suppose to gave birth in 9 months so it happened ealier that that, month and the half. I started havin doubt cause there was no exlaination for that. We then started fighting when I ask about this. But then I continued supported the child. My parents came to see the child but still they never noticed the sign of me. But still that didn't stop me from supporting the child .. I have my doubt and still support. But now the mother hate me. She doesn't want to talk or see me I don't know why she scream and fight with me all the time, which resulted to me stopping visiting the child more often. The rumours became more about the child not belonging to me on top of my doubt but still continued to support the child. And now it been ten years and still feel or still don't know whether that child is really mine and I can't reach out or go all out for her because of this doubt.

I then decided to go for a DNA test with the child but they need the mother to be there or a letter with her signature that she does approve the DNA testing. But now how would I approach her cause she doesn't want to see me anymore she hate me she doesn't want to talk with me, she hates me in the extent of not even responding when I greet her. I can't even tell her that I want a DNA testing, I can't even tell her that I have my doubt...I don't even know where to start with her...

I want to put closure to this chapter and I don't know how...
I want to be there for my child with heart and soul but my doubt keep pushing me away and her mom makes things more worse,,

Is there a way out to this? Is there a way or something that I can do to solve this...

Please advice me,, suggest anything because am willing to try what ever to free myself from this chains bounding my heart
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01 Jan 0001

I don't do DNA testing. Try Cyberdoc or Gynaedoc.
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