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16 Nov 2004

Does not show love, affection, very inhibbited
My g/f is a depressive, I found her secretely using anti depressives.She is a very withdrawn person and does not mix easily with people.She does not have friends.She eats very, very little, it always tired, complaining and has a very abnormal attitude towards sex.She does not visably enjoy the act at all, as soon as its over, she leaps up and into the bath (this can be at any time of the day/night) Penetrative Sex is very infrequent (five weeks) and she is loath to perform oral, hand jobs, or accept oral. She is very secretive, and only discusses matters with her mother, like there is something to hide. Their is also a nasty vendictive and harsh streek in her, and she is prone to throw tantrams (but never in front of other people, always when we are alone) She hardly can greet me in the mornings, but falls all over the security guards at the gate when greeting them, then is surly towards me. She is ultra consertative in her outlook to life, she hides behind religion, I think as a crutch to justify her points of view.She does not seem to understand that in a relationship sex is important, she does not and will not discuss it, and will not come with me to seek joint therapy. What could be the cause of this problem?
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01 Jan 0001

If someone if Depressed, it's an excellent idea, in mos cases, for them to take antidepressants, and it shouldn't ever be something they think they need to take secretively. Depression can spoil appetites, for food and for sex. As you describe the way she treats you, one can't help wondering why you would stay with her. If she refuses to discuss all this, or to join you in joint therapy, there's nothing more you can do to remedy the situation. Don't you deserve better than this ?
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