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13 Jul 2008

don't know what to do
My husband left Spes Forces last year, apr, our house bond became in arrears, I never knew about that, we married out of communtiy of property but house is in both our names, July he just moved out of the house started security comp with friends in he borrowed R30 000 for arrear bond money from my father through a contract, I had no choice but to move back to my home town with a little boy of 9, everything was ripped out under us, he is currently working for Luarica Diamond mine in Angola, visits the RSA often but never sees his son, 1 week ago I found out that he's already engaged to a women living in Pta with to children, although her divorce was finilised 6 mnths ago, we still not devorced and I love him with all my heart, he saw his son 1 year ago and phones when he can as he is using a Satelite phone. Our house must be auctioned now in Pta as it's in arrears. I used to work in die SANDF for 23 years, we is still married for 12 yrs. It seems that he told this lady that he divorced me along time ago I found out her cell no and phoned her and that;s how she became aware of me. I'm so depressed, don't know what to do, and he emailed me every day but since this thing happened he changed his address. I've had so much respect for him as he was also a Lt Col in Special Forces. Please help me, some days I just want to take my own life but it is the little one who's keep me going.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Much of the problem here sounds like one in which you need legal and financial advice, areas where I am unable to help you. If you are still married, he cannot get engaged to someone else --- and does she know he is still married ? He sounds like a foolish and impulsive, immature bloke, the sort who might well end up in the sort of business he apparently works in. Yes, call Lifeline, and try the Divorce support forum. And see a good local lawyer. COuld your father call in the loan he made, so as to get some grip on this guy ?
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