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09 Mar 2004

Dont know what to do?
Hi, I saw someone posted a similair problem that im facing. My ex and were together for 3 years and we broke up coz we just couldnt get it together. This was 5 months ago, She met someone else and moved in with him 3 weeks ago. Now she says she made a big mistake and she wants to come back. Only problem is she says she is pregnant. I dont know if i should believe her or not. Maybe she is testing my love for her. Im confused. I still love her alot, but dont know if she is toying with me or not. Sum help pls.
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01 Jan 0001

Dear Kenny,
I'm really not sure that love is like an Examination, with a series of tests we have to pass. And I wonder what "big mistake" she is admitting --- to have left you, to have gone with the other guy, to have allowed herself to fall pregnant by a guy she hardly knew. At the very least she sounds awfully impulsive and inconsistent, which would make it really hard to know what she might do next, and whether one could trust her, emotionally, in the long-term. How sure could you feel that after a couple more months, she might decide that coming back to you was also a "big mistake" ?
And she isn't coming back to you in the same condition in which she left --- she's a different woman, who has shown herself to be unreliable, who comes with another man's child and the requirement that the other man would have to remain a part of that child's life, and thus of hers and her partners. It sounds like an awful lot to ask of you. And if you two "just couldn't get it together" before, how is it conceivable that you'll 'get it together" now ?
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