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26 Jul 2006

dreams about ex bf
Hi Doc & friends, last night I dreamt that my ex-boyfriend asked me to come back. I was viciously screaming at him, still clearly remember that I said ¡°I will never come back, you treated me so bad, cheated on me, I am so disgusted just by thinking of it!¡±

This is NOT the first time I dreamt about him, there are other times, at the beginning it was having sex, then it was that I refuse to do it, then it was this recent dream¡­

That was a very bad relationship, I believe that I had experienced the worst that could happen in a relationship, I was young, and was manipulated. He basically used me for sex and money, plus all the ingredients like lying, cheating, abusing... I wasted the best time of my life on this man, and I started lots of bad habits that influenced my current relationship and life, which I am trying very hard to change¡­.

During these couple of years since broke up, I went through a stage of Forgetting it ¨C Remembering details ¨C Realizing how bad it was ¨C Disgusted when I think about it ¨C Realizing how much it affected my current life ¨C Hate him so much for what he has done to me¨C Slowly trying to get ride of the anger¡­..

I still want to face him and let out the anger, but I know that by confrontation, it gives him a chance to contact me again. I DO not want him any closer to my life anymore. So what can I do to balance my emotions, and to get better? I am thinking to see a doc, I know I can try my best, but I still need some help.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

I recognize the temptation to seek a confrontation, but it rarely actually benefits you. The sequence, both of dreams and of feelings you describe, suggests that you are gradually working him out of your system ; counselling might help to make the process more efficient.
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