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30 Jun 2005

Dumped...again???
Can someone PLEASE explain why this is happening to me...again? I(38yrs) met this guy(43yrs) almost 4 years ago. The first 2 years was wonderful! We did everything together and helped each other in each and every way. He used my car daily as he did not have one of his own. A year ago(after acquiring his own car), he suddenly stayed out all weekends, & announced that he needed his space and did not want to settle down. I was devastated ..I did not expect that at all!. He moved out but stayed in contact with me(I think out of guilt as he left me at a bad time too!).4 months ago, he admtted that he made a mistake and that he still loves me, that he wants another chance, that he missed the kids etc etc...so he moved back in. I was very happy as I still love him very much!...But lo and behold!!...a month ago he started spending weekends with his friends again!! He has asked me to give him some more space as he realises that this cannot go on anymore. He packed a bag and stayed over with friends for two weeks....He is supposed to tell me what his decision is this wekend!.I obviously thought that there is another woman involved...but I've made several investigations and found out that there is no other woman involved...(I could be wrong?) How can he really love me?...when he does this to me? Why is he so scared to commit? Surely a man at his age would want to settle down?? Please help! I'm hurt, confused, depressed....
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

I agree with the other messages. Look after yourself
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