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23 Oct 2009

Engagement Ring!!!
Hi CS,

My ex fiance has been phoning and I have ignored his calls. Then, this morning, an email comes through to my address, it is also addressed to both of my parents.

It is from the ex asking for my parents assistance as I am not responding to his calls. He says he is heavily indebted and needs their help getting the engagement ring that he gave to me back!!!!

Can you believe it? There was a time when I would have sold the ring, used some of the money to cover wedding deposits which I paid, give some to chairty &  then give him the rest towards his debts which he got from our engagement, but now he will never see a cent of it.

(He CHOSE to propose to me in the public and expensive way that he did, it came as a surprise to me  just the same as he CHOSE to break up with me countless times throughout our relationship, CHOSE to say terrible things and then say it was just because he was upset &  he didn' t mean them, CHOSE to permanantly remind me of how much the ring was and how is worried financially, CHOSE not to get help).

Sorry, I am just venting more than anything I guess, but can you believe it? I don' t think I am overreacting to this? And getting my parents involved, the absolute cheak!!

Would appreciate any comments to give me a sense of feeling ' normal'  about ths!

Thanks again,

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01 Jan 0001

I think that's what is called Chutzpah ? What cheek ! If he's in financial dificulties, that's unfortunate, but presumably entirely his own fault. I'm not sure what the precise legal position would be, but it seems unlikely that he is entirtled to expect to demand that you give back a gift. If he chose to break-up, he must accept its consequences.
At least he has helped to confirm in your mind how lucky you are that he broke up with you, and how much of a non-loss he was !
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