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04 Mar 2004

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i dont know if i can stand the fact that my bf has a child!no dont get me wrong his child is a darling but i dont have anything against her!it is the fact that the child represent what happened between him and the mother and it is a costant reminder! i feel so selfish but i cant help it!knowing he slept with her just drives me up the wall!! what do yuo think i must do?do you think that im childish???
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear mnp,
Yes, you are being childish and selfish and possessive. The child is an innocent person in her own right, and can't be blamed for whatever her mother once did. And she is part of your bf, if you can't love the child, you are not loving him properly. You have very right to be jealous and outraged if his is RIGHT NOW having some affair with another women or his Ex --- but you have no right to feel jealous of anything that happened before he met you.
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